Because I’m such a talker it’s difficult for me to grasp the fact that others may not be the same. It’s easy for me to express myself through words (oftentimes too many words) and frustrating having to deal with those who may be communicationally lacking. However, I feel as if I’ve gotten better with accepting the fact that others express themselves differently than I do. They may be conveying the exact same message, just using a different method. I place such heavy emphasis on words and verbiage that sometimes I forget “actions speak louder than words”. As much as I hate to say this adage I do see the validity. Without the actions, words hold no weight. I’m a firm believer in tailoring your communication style to the listener, but others may not be the same. This holds true especially in personal relationships. It’s much easier to change your communication style when it comes to clients or customers because you’re not around them constantly and you can clock out, or mentally check out. Yet, when you’re communicating with friends, partners, family it’s difficult to communicate in any other way than your own. Whether this means expressing yourself through words, song, dance, whatever floats your boat.
After being in a relationship with someone for the past two years (someone who I have, in pure frustration, referred to as “emotionally lazy” ) I have come to understand that not everyone places such emphasis on words as I do. Some, like Mr. Kelley, prefer actions to words. What he chooses to do compared to what I choose to say could mean the same thing, but executed very differently. Communication is more than words; it includes all methods of conveying messages. Being a Journalism major I guess I tend to forget that sometimes.
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