I saw this article the other day and started having a couple days worth of internal debate. I was wondering if my “excessive problem talk” was truly causing problems. On one hand, I want to say indignantly that I should be able to talk about whatever the hell I want and if that’s what it takes to make me feel better than so be it. However, the more I thought about it, the more it didn’t sound right. While I can understand discussing our problems is primarily a female trait, in the end what does excessive talk lead to? Does it really make you feel better or does it simply allow you to vent about the same problems without actually finding a solution? If your constantly talking about the same problems and the same troubled areas are consistently coming up, is it really going to help bring it up one more time?
As brought up in the article, boys and girls have different coping skills and it’s important to find middle ground. Communication occurs in many ways and it’s not all the same. If the person you’re venting to isn’t responding to you the same way you would respond to them, it doesn’t mean they’re not listening. It’s completely possible that they’re taking in everything you’re saying, they simply have nothing to respond to. This may be frustrating and seemingly careless, but it’s important to understand that while their mute-ness is bothering you, you’re constant yapping is probably a nuisance to them. At the end of it, if a mutual respect is present a common ground should be reached.