Believe the good

2 Sep

Why do we always believe the worst about ourselves? No matter how good you know you are or what amazing things you know you’re capable of, why is it that the criticisms always win out?  Whenever compliments are given or kind words are exchanged why do we usually have the knee-jerk reaction to reject them?  Surely it can’t be because the majority of us have low self-esteem, so what makes us automatically believe the bad things but think the good things are fallacies?  

It’s so easy to understand the negative things about ourselves because we are our own worst critic.  I think we each strive to be better with each day and continual improvement is a never-ending process, so when people acknowledge positive things about you your automatic reaction is to reject it.  We continually think that we can be smarter, kinder, more generous, more attractive, etc. When in reality maybe we’re fine the way that we are.  Sometimes changes aren’t necessary.  It’s a difficult concept to grasp, I know, but perhaps who we are is pretty freakin’ great. Not everyone is going to appreciate everything about you, but when you come across those that do revel in it and belive it.  There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be better, but there’s also nothing wrong with acknowledging that there are things about you that are good, aspects that should remain unchanged and traits that deserved to be recognized.  

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One Response to “Believe the good”

  1. John September 2, 2011 at 7:39 pm #

    Maybe it is that we don’t forgive ourselves past mistakes. I love the term “comfortable in your skin”. It denotes that we know who we are as well as what we need to grow. I don’t think it is a surprise at all that we have to first love ourselves in order to love others well.

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